It is not “luck”Posted: August 4, 2013
I woke up this morning to see that my client I coached for 7 months now, has gotten engaged. It made me smile and it made me happy. I giggled, because, today is Sunday and our last coaching call was on Monday and that’s when the decision got crystal clear for him.
I looked back at the miracle we created on this path of working together. Back around New Years, I was living in Montreal and my friend (now also a client) was visiting. I remember him hiring me because he was clear that the only area that truly worked in his life was the area of finances (and he was being coached on his finances by my husband). So he hired me (as a performance coach) to specifically deal with other areas of his life that seemed out of balance with how well he was doing in his career.
Over the period of half a year, he was beginning to date, to learn about women, to begin to find out what it is that makes him happy and what it is that he is actually looking for. We went back and dealt with some patterns from the past in relationships that didn’t turn out. And then, there was a space for something new. He began to date. And sure, there were bumps on the road, but we worked through them. It was his willingness to be “coach-able” and his trust in me, and also my continual training in listening and how to provide what people want, that had us have this amazing 100% partnership in him achieving his goals.
Needless to say, prior to this Monday, his engagement was in schedule in his next 6 month milestone. And, as I had him define his relationship goal, it all got unfolded. He was clear already and I, as a coach, had to get out of my way to let him create his miracle. And he did. He decided to propose this weekend as he was already planning a beautiful surprise for his girlfriend. She, of course, said yes.
Why am I saying this? Well, on one hand, I am very proud, as a coach and as a friend. I am very very happy for them. And, I wanted to share this as I know that many people walk around with an illusion that I once had again, that some of us have beautiful relationships because we are lucky or it just happened to be that way. And I am here to say, that isn’t so. IT IS NOT LUCK!!!! It is being willing to want something and do everything you can to have it.
Honoring my friend for being willing to want it and doing everything he needed to do to have this miracle happen in his life.